Tuesday, January 31, 2012

The Home Stretch!

Pregnancy #2 on Left,        Pregnancy #1 on right
Still wearing pre-pregnancy pants over here!!!
Well, my plan was to get to this post at 30 weeks, but with time flying by, we are at 31 weeks already.  That being said, we are in the home stretch!   The ending, the conclusion, the finish line, the completion!  Time really has been going fast.  Having a little one to look after makes pregnancy fly by.
I'm still feeling pretty good, but I have noticed baby girl has gotten lower.  Making mobility a little bit more restricted.  I keep pulling round ligaments, from simple things like standing.  (heaven forbid I stand up!)  Weight gain has slowed to a normal level, blood pressure is perfect, along with baby heartbeat and movement.  Happy as a clam over here.  Now if only I could get some things done around here..........
1.  Paint baby room
2.  Have pool fence moved
3.  Build Hubby an office in the garage (there's already a room in there, it just needs to be finished)
4.  Sell truck/ buy car with better accommodation for 2 car seats

Thankfully, with having another girl, we already have all the stuff.  So, even if we don't get everything done, its not a big deal.  At least thats what I'm trying to convince myself of.  I also have a list of things to do on a personal level!
1.  Re-read a few of my favorite books
2.  Continue walking
3.  Practice pain coping techniques from the Birthing From Within Classes (which I LOVE by the way)
4.  Spend some time connecting with baby.  Even if its just 5 minutes before bed.
5.  Do yoga at least once a week.  I have been a slacker.

I plan on surrounding myself with happy thoughts, and happy, empowered women the last few weeks of pregnancy.  I will continue to go to the ICAN meetings (every 2 weeks at this point) and hopefully make it to a bellies meeting.  We have sent out the invitations for my blessingway, which is in 3 1/2 weeks already.  (holy cow)  Its a very small group of women that I love, and I can't wait to see what all it entails.  I love surprises!!!  Well, that about it here, and I'll post again after the blessingway!

Friday, January 6, 2012

Dear Pregnancy, here's a few reasons you suck.

(WARNING< < THIS IS NOTHING POSITIVE, JUST COMPLAINTS> >WARNING)
Okay.  I can't say that I LOVE being pregnant.  Kudos to those of you that do.  I also can't say that I hate being pregnant either.  But there are things about pregnancy that I hate:
-The increased sense of smell.
So you have a super nose.  Do things ever smell super good??? No.  But I am convinced my entire house smells like cat poop.  Can I smell the flowers outside or the fresh fruit? No.  I can only smell crap.  Everywhere.
-The 3 months of nausea.
Luckily, this one isn't about me.  But I do have a couple friends experiencing this right now.  It feels like an all day hangover everyday, but you didn't get to go out and party your ass off the night before.  Chances are, the night before, you fell asleep on the couch at 7:30, because you were too nauseous to lay in bed, or move.  Oh, and this feeling lasts for 12 weeks for the lucky ones, 20+ weeks for others.  Thats at least 84 days of constant hangover.
-Waiting to tell people you're pregnant.
Most of the time, you wait until 12ish weeks to tell people you're expecting in the first place.  But, by this time, you end up severing multiple friendships because you keep cancelling on them.  Because you are too nauseous to go out or because they'll notice you're not enjoying a glass of wine. (when you normally do)  Or you too nauseated to even hold a proper adult conversation, because all you can think about is not throwing up.  People start to worry about your well being.  Little do they know, its because of the "little being" you're creating!  Thankfully, most of your good friends will understand why you have fallen off of the face of the earth for a couple months.
-You can't drink wine.
I'm not talking about sipping on 1/2 a glass of wine.  Because I do that when I miss the taste.  I'm talking about going out with the girls, having a couple glasses of wine at a fancy wine bar, and making a DD drive me home.  Call me selfish, but I miss my adult time.  I miss happy hour on my patio with my husband.  I'm not saying I want to get smashed every night, but man oh man do I miss the warm fuzzies wine give you after a full glass.
-No clothing fits well. 
First there is the "I just look bloated" faze.  Then you have the "I can't fit into maternity clothes or my regular clothes" faze.  Then you have the "holy crap I'm 9 months pregnant, and my maternity clothes don't fit anymore."  Even in the few month in between those fazes, when maternity clothes "fit", they don't really fit.  They are baggy, ill fitting clothes.  That are way too expensive.  Add the word 'maternity' to a shirt, and suddenly its now worth 25 dollars for a $10 tee shirt that's not going to fit well in the first place!
-Third trimester sleeping issues.
Anyone who's been pregnant knows what I'm talking about.  You can't sleep on your back.  Or your stomach.  You have 2 positions.  Right side.  Or left.  And as soon as you get comfortable there, you'll have to pee.  Or the baby will be kicking around, keeping you up.  (yes, they keep you up BEFORE they arrive!)  There's also the crazy dreams, the leg cramps, hip pain, and the  incessant heartburn that haunts you no matter how many tums you take.
-Peeing your pants.
Only a few tinkles thankfully.  And I keep up on my kegels!  But there is something about a little human inside your body, kicking the shit out of you bladder, out of the blue, that will make anyone with a bladder o steel pee a little.
-The AWFUL COMMENTS people make.
I'm not sure what it is about a pregnant belly that turns people into idiots.  But it makes people say things like this:
--Oh, when are the Triplets due?  (because that makes me feel thin and beautiful, jerk face)
--You MUST be due tomorrow!  (no, actually I have 3 months left.  Thanks)
--You must be having twins, you are HUGE!  (when is it ever okay to tell someone they are huge?)
--I need to get you out of here before you make a mess on my floor.  (from some cashier at target when I was 41 weeks pregnant.  It was the last time I went out in public.)
And here are a few postpartum comments that also suck:
--Got another one in the oven already huh?  (4 weeks PP)  No, pregnant women gain weight, and it doesn't just fall right off instantly, jerk!
--Enjoy it now before the baby comes!  ( this happened a  few days PP to a friend, who's child was in the NICU)

In conclusion, stop giving pregnant women a hard time!  We have enough going on as it is.  There's extra hormones and all of the above.  Just tell us we look great, and go about your day.  Because I would love to be able to go to the gas station without having someone make a completely ridiculous comment about how GIGANTIC I am.  Us preggo's need love too.

New Year, New Trimester!

2nd pregnancy on the left,     1st pregnancy on the right.
Happy 2012!  Thought I would give everyone a quick update.  As we barrel into the new year, I'm barreling into the 3rd (and final) trimester.  I am feeling great!  Keeping active with walking, being the mother to a 1 1/2 year old, and occasionally, a yoga DVD.  Honestly, I haven't been doing yoga as much as I'd like, the holidays are exhausting!!!  Getting heartburn back, and some fatigue.  Thanks to my awesome chiropractor, my back/hips are feeling amazing.
I have gained some weight, nearly 20lbs now.  And it kind of pisses me off!  I mean, everyone can always eat healthier.  But I am eating REALLY healthy, and still gained 8lbs last month.  This is why I don't weigh myself.  (perhaps I should start)  I was able to tell my midwife, that whatever weight I gained, I must have needed, because I have been eating amazing!  I mean, I've only had french fries twice in the past 6 months.  Perhaps a little more chocolate than I should, but I think I NEED some chocolate.   Lets just hope everything comes back normal from my gestational diabetes test.
We have hired a doula!  And I have been to one birthing class, and will resume classes in 2 weeks.  I have also been attending local ICAN meetings.  I am not sure where I would be without their constant support.  A friend has also offered to throw me a Blessingway.  I can't wait!  (here is a link if you want to read up!)  http://www.naturalbirthandbabycare.com/blessingway.html  I have also registered for about 4 things on Amazon.  We don't really need anything, but it would be nice to get a new stroller.
I have days where I feel a little scared/emotional about birth, and then I have days I feel that I could birth a 20lb 3 month old, with no complications.  I am hoping that the birthing classes will get me in the best mental state possible, and that I can stay there.  I plan on re-reading The Silent Knife, Birthing From Within, and Ina May's new book, A Midwives Manifesta, sometime here in the near future.  If you have any other tips, for getting in a peaceful state of mind, leave them here!